{"id":832,"date":"2020-05-30T17:37:32","date_gmt":"2020-05-30T15:37:32","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/nadiathonnard.com\/?page_id=832"},"modified":"2025-07-09T17:10:03","modified_gmt":"2025-07-09T15:10:03","slug":"an-open-letter-to-divorcing-separating-parents","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/nadiathonnard.com\/index.php\/an-open-letter-to-divorcing-separating-parents\/","title":{"rendered":"An Open Letter to Divorcing\/Separating Parents"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Hey, Parents Going Through Separation,<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s be real<\/strong> \u2014 divorce sucks. Nobody gets married thinking they’ll end up here. When it happens, your whole world flips upside down, and honestly? That’s terrifying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But here’s what you need to know:<\/strong> you’re not navigating this alone anymore. There’s more support out there than ever before. You actually have a shot at doing this differently \u2014 not perfectly, but with way less damage to everyone involved.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yet we’re still seeing the same old patterns:<\/strong> endless court battles, parents at each other’s throats, and kids stuck in the middle of adult mess.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s be clear:<\/strong> separating does not make you a weekend parent, a Disney parent, an au pair or a 50\/50 parent. You are \u2014 and always will be \u2014 a 100% parent<\/strong>. Your love doesn’t get chopped up by care and contact schedules. Your responsibility doesn’t shrink because you live in different houses.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you can’t handle your own emotions right now, how do you expect your kid to? They’re children. They don’t have the emotional tools you do (or should have). They’re not your messengers, your therapists, or your weapons. They’re just trying to figure out how to be kids in a world that suddenly feels unsafe.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Separation hurts, yes <\/strong>\u2014 but staying stuck in that pain is a choice<\/strong>. Stop trying to make a point. Start trying to make a difference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your kids are watching everything. How you handle this mess becomes their blueprint for relationships, conflict, and self-worth. What kind of template are you giving them?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The courts cannot give you emotional justice.<\/strong> They’ll sort out paperwork, but they can’t heal your heart or teach you how to co-parent. That’s your job.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hard truth:<\/strong> Most care and contact and maintenance battles aren’t really about the kids \u2014 they’re about hurting your ex. Even if it means hurting the people you love most. That has to stop.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Want to actually protect your child? Get your emotions in check. Own your behaviour. Make their peace more important than your pride.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your job is not to pass down wounds. Your job is to pass down wisdom.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You have the power to create something new here<\/strong> \u2014 a family that exists across two homes built on respect, not revenge. Because at the end of the day, the law doesn’t raise your children \u2014 you do!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Ready to do this differently?<\/strong> If any of this hit home, that’s your courage talking. The courage to learn, grow, and lead your family through this with dignity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The time to do better is now.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nadia Thonnard<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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