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With Christmas being around the corner, many parents will find themselves \u201cusing\u201d Santa as a means to correct their children\u2019s \u201cbad\u201d behaviour.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every generation, though, believes that they have cracked the new parenting trend that will resolve all others, and yes, while we try to adjust, adapt and awaken to new and better ways, every generation still uses \u201cfear\u201d as a means to get their children to do what they want them to do!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To that there is one question I always ask: How can we teach anything when making someone feel bad about themselves?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Correcting damages the parent-child relationship. Criticising, Blaming, Complaining, Nagging, Threatening or Bribing to control, have no place in a healthy, trusting relationship. It is only through the use of connecting habits that you will have any influence over your children as they grow. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering. – Yoda<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

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In REALity Parenting, I like to raise awareness that we need to Connect instead of Correct.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n

Parents who correct put themselves in a position of \u201cI know better\u201d and dismiss the underlying need behind the child\u2019s behaviour.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When parents connect, they open their minds and their arms to the child\u2019s needs while gently addressing the unwanted behaviour.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, next time you catch yourself correcting your child with words such as:<\/p>\n\n\n\n