I’m regularly reminded of the struggles people face in relationships. Whether in personal conversations, coaching sessions, or just observing the world around me, I see how often people feel stuck, unheard, or disconnected. They question why things aren’t working, why the same issues keep coming up, or why they don’t feel truly fulfilled.
And more often than not, the problem isn’t the relationship itself—it’s how it was created.
The Limitation of “Relationship”
The concept of “relationship” is often viewed as limiting because the word itself implies separation—a distance between two things. A relationship can feel like something you have to maintain, often shaped by obligation, compromise, or even control. This mindset can create tension, where people focus on keeping the relationship intact rather than nurturing real connection.
The Shift to REALationship
A REALationship, on the other hand, moves beyond maintaining a relationship to co-creating a dynamic and ever-evolving connection. It’s not just about being together—it’s about choosing each other every day in a way that allows both people to grow and thrive without obligations.
What Makes a REALationship?
Authenticity – Showing up as your true self, without masks or pretense. Awareness – Understanding your values, needs, and what truly matters to you. Choice – Making conscious decisions that align with who you are, rather than following expectations. Growth – Supporting each other’s personal journeys instead of holding each other back or attempting to change the other person.
This applies to all relationships—romantic, friendships, family, and even professional connections. When we stop operating on autopilot and start making intentional choices, relationships transform.
It Starts With Knowing WHO You Truly Are
The foundation of a REALationship is self-awareness. Before you can build deep, meaningful connections, you need to understand your own Behavioural Blueprint—the unique set of values, needs, and beliefs that shape your choices.
Without this awareness, it’s easy to fall into patterns that don’t serve you, making decisions based on external influences rather than what truly aligns with you. But when you take the time to uncover who you really are, you gain the clarity and confidence to create REALationships that feel fulfilling, balanced, and real.
Ask Yourself:
Am I in a REALationship, or just a relationship?
When you step back and look at how your connections are built—whether they’re based on habit or conscious choice—you’ll start to see where change is needed.
If you’re ready to shift from simply existing in relationships to co-creating REALationships, start by getting clear on your values, understanding your needs, and making choices that align with your true self. This is the key to deeper connections, greater fulfillment, and a life that feels genuinely yours.
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