February is the month of Love, and what a better way to celebrate Love by giving your relationship some TLC. REALationship Coaching is not just for couples who are currently struggling, but for individuals who are mindful about keeping it REAL and understand that just like a car, it needs to be serviced. My REALationship Coaching is based on “My Blueprint” model. For those who are not yet familiar with the “My Blueprint” model, it is an easy model which brings awareness as to why we do the things we do and how to get what we want in an efficient and responsible manner. Many couples who come forward with…

With Christmas being around the corner, many parents will find themselves “using” Santa as a means to correct their children’s “bad” behaviour. Every generation, though, believes that they have cracked the new parenting trend that will resolve all others, and yes, while we try to adjust, adapt and awaken to new and better ways, every generation still uses “fear” as a means to get their children to do what they want them to do! To that there is one question I always ask: How can we teach anything when making someone feel bad about themselves? Correcting damages the parent-child relationship. Criticising, Blaming, Complaining, Nagging, Threatening or Bribing to control, have…

Recently I was asked if I was a Trans Inclusive Counsellor. My spontaneous response was yes, why wouldn’t I be? I was then further asked if I had Trans related training. This presented for an interesting reflection. My answer to this was, I have “people” training. In a time when we are raising much awareness to non-discrimination, non-denomination, inclusion and being accepting, I find that there have never been more labels to describe people! It is clear that the more labels there are, the more differences need to be acknowledged. Labels can be helpful to clarify certain traits. They help people know where to put you and while labels can…

The end of a relationship is never easy. Telling your children that their parents are no longer going to live together and that their family, as they know it, is going to change forever, is probably one of the hardest talk a parent will ever have to have with their children. Divorcing parents are, however increasingly becoming aware of the importance to discuss the best way to announce the news to their children and, in the process, are putting their children’s needs first. They agree that their divorce is not their children’s divorce and that even though the parents will have to make sense of their own emotions in the…

Buying a home can be challenging at the best of times. Buying a home as a single parent, especially after a divorce, can be a daunting experience with its own set of challenges. After all, there are so many steps, tasks, and requirements, and you may be anxious about making an expensive mistake. The person you were used to make decision with is no longer by your side and all the responsibilities lie on you now. Whether you owned a home together and now you are buying alone, or if you were renting before and are now purchasing your first property, you are venturing in new territory and you are…

The dictionary defines STILL as remaining in place or at rest; motionless; stationary: to stand still, free from sound or noise, as a place or persons; hushed; free from turbulence or commotion; peaceful; tranquil. However, there are also the STILL people. People who are are still making excuses; still not taking responsibility; still complaining; still angry; still blaming others; still trying to control others; still stuck in the victim mentality; still wondering; still hoping; still trying… Are you Still doing something that is getting you nowhere? It is as important to stay away from Still people as it is to stop being a Still person. Whether you know a Still person,…

Well, I know that for the many parents who have reached out to me since the Lockdown, it means feeling at a loss dealing with their children being at home all the time.   For some parents it means juggling a normal day’s work from  home, for others it means having absolutely no respite from house work, kids and homework. If that is not enough, the added responsibility of remote schooling, the panic around how will losing school time impact on their children school year and the financial uncertainty of our future has come with its fair share of added challenges, but mostly, parents have asked me the same question:…

This time of year, all we hear and read are: New Year, New Me Leave the past behind New beginning This was a tough year, may the new one be kinder … Then we repeat these exact same thoughts the next year. Sounds familiar? To set out a future goal, it has to begin with you. If you don’t understand WHO you are, WHAT you want and what you are DOING to get it, your New Year Resolutions, will always be forever re-written on the 1st January. Forget about leaving the past, starting a new year, writing a new beginning. Stop thinking in terms of New Year, New Me. The…

For many divorcing/separating parents, a Parenting Plan is a document that completes the divorce or separation agreement and sets some markers for their co-parenting relationship. While it states the obvious on getting parents to agree on the sharing of the children, it also outlines some finer details necessary to raise children together while being apart. But a Parenting Plan is not fail-proof and more often than not, parents find themselves contesting the terms after it has been made an order of court. So, why is that? This is because, for many separating/divorcing parents, the Parenting Plan lists a selection of generic guiding principles which are used as an inflexible template…